“Go Shortie, it’s your Birthday! We gon party like it’s your Birthday!”
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MEEEE! 45 today!!
“Prepare to be SIIIICKAA me!”
Ok I’m done lol! Listen, I spent too many years not acknowledging my birthday and pretending I didn’t need to celebrate it so I’m making up for lost time. During my mum-fog era, I thought so little of myself, that it felt like an unnecessary expense to plan anything. Plus, years of expecting others to make me feel worthy or special and constantly feeling disappointed had left me believing I wasn’t worth the fuss…
Fast forward to 2021 and my birthday celebration looked like an episode of “Mums Gone Wild”… except I was the only one wildin out lol! Thankfully my friends didn’t judge or complain, they simply held my hair back (yes - it went THERE!) and protected me. It was the first birthday after my marriage crash, so they knew that I needed to get it out my system and rode it out with me like the Gangsters they are!
How much significance do you guys put on your own birthday? I know we go all out for our kids, partners, etc, but do you really take the time to receive ALL the love and attention that should come on YOUR birthday?… Your birthday is your pat on the back, your “well done” for making it to another year. It’s also a great time to reflect on the life lessons you will have learnt along the way and do a growth check - am I in the same place mentally that I was last year? It’s cool if you are, so long as that place is benefitting you…
The best part though for me about getting older is the new layer of IDGAF that seems to peel off me each year! Truly, with age comes a confidence and a knowing of myself that I could never have imagined and could only have faked in my 20’s and 30’s. I’m not moved or bothered by other peoples opinions or perceptions of me because they are entitled to it, but it is just that - a perception. I don’t feel pressured to follow any trends because I’m obsessed with staying in MY lane and continuing on with the adventures that are along the way.
So this year, will be a quieter but more content affair, feeding my soul with the people I love and allowing myself to be nourished by their love. If you are where I was and one of those that “doesn’t want a fuss” drop the act and celebrate yourself Sis - you are worth it! My birthday wish is that you take this moment in time to let the world know, another year has passed but YOU STILL GOT IT. Don’t worry, I’ll lend you my megaphone!
*cue the confetti*
Lots of love,
Sherine x
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